Helene, of I’m Living Proof That God Has a Sense of Humor, is the mother of two sets of twins. That’s right, I said two. Sets of twins. The first set, a boy and a girl, are 4 years old. The second set, both boys, are 18 months. I’d say Helene has her hands full! Others have said it, too. Her reply? “Yes, better to have hands full than empty arms and a broken heart. Well said. Helene’s story is fascinating. She and her husband worked very hard to conceive their first set of twins; their second came about naturally, after a failed attempt at in vitro fertilization. Helene volunteered to talk with me in my pursuit of mom bloggers’ stories. Here’s what she had to say.
The name of your blog is fantastic! Tell me about it.
I guess I just thought “What would be funny? What would be creative?” I’ve been saying all along that God has a sense of humor - I’m living proof of that!
How did you get started blogging?
I didn’t even know about blogging, but I was part of a message board for women who were trying to conceive, they started an online diary forum. I thought, what a good way to get my emotions out. I could talk to my husband, but there were some things I didn’t want to tell him. But I didn’t mind telling other women who were going through it, because it’s nice to get that feedback. Yeah, that’s kind of how it all started.
I kept that for 2 or 3 years. In my second pregnancy. I was on bed rest, family and friends were always calling to ask how I was, and I was too tired to get on the phone and repeat the same thing. One of my friends said, “why don’t you start a blog?” It really just started as a way to keep in touch with family and friends, then little by little I started getting comments from women with two sets of twins or problems with infertility. I realized other people are reading this. It’s more like a family journal, but it’s also good to share with others and have others read it, knowing other people are going through the same thing. That’s kind of how it got to where it is.
Why do you blog?
Some of it is just my thoughts on a daily basis, it may not even have to do with motherhood or parenting. A lot of it is, because that’s my life. I can go back to any certain place or time and see things like when did they get their first tooth. Anytime I’m having a really bad day and I’m feeling less than grateful, I can go back and say look what I went though to have these babies.
Someday when your kids grow up, they may read that. My mother never complained to me about stuff, so I didn’t realize how hard it would be. I’d like someday for my daughter to read it. Maybe when she’s feeling inadequate or inferior and be able to know that I felt that way too. It’s kind of like a book of memories, really.
What has your experience been regarding other bloggers and readers?
It starts out as your own personal thing, you want a memory of something. It’s interesting how you meet so many other people in the world. You don’t feel so alone trying to be a mom, juggling it all. You just know you can connect with other people who have gone through it or who are going through it. It becomes like an extended family. You’ve never met them and you probably never will. It’s like a sense of sisterhood. It’s like you’ve known them all your life but you don’t even KNOW them. I guess you wouldn’t understand unless you’re actually doing it.
** This is just a sampling of my conversation with Helene. We had a great time talking. I’m really having fun speaking with mom bloggers and learning about their unique experiences. It’s said that everyone has a story, and I’m definitely finding that to be true of the women I’ve spoken with. Check back every Friday for a new Friday Feature Profile to hear the stories of more mom bloggers!